Challenge! Why Old Age Relationship Last For Ages While Yours Cannot Last For A Month

Relationships. Today we see a drought in long lasting relationships. Now we ask ourselves are relationships today truly relationships and do they last? In the past divorce was unacceptable but in today’s world it has become so normal and accepted. Why has it become acceptable and why wasn’t it before?

Past generations have had stronger and long-lasting relationships. To explain further, in the past relationships were made from the roots of the ancient courtships, the medieval chivalry, arranged marriages and wife inheritance.

In these times the men were the head of the household and the women took care of the house, cooking, cleaning and the children while the men were away working to provide for their family. Family’s believed strongly in family traditions, religious beliefs, the upkeep of the household and the structure of the family. These values that they learned from their childhood reinforced the need to keep a family together.

In the past divorce was unacceptable but as more and more people started to get divorced it became something that had to be accepted by society. Today relationships are more based on a physical attraction rather than personality. These days relationships are you + me = lust not love.

The 21st century of adults have an entitled attitude which creates a selfish outlook toward relationships and makes it so that people care only about their needs in the relationship and not also about the other person’s needs in the relationship. This is a contributor to how people chose to stay distant in relationships because they don’t want to get hurt but if one never takes a risk one will never know what one missed out on. 

In Conclusion relationships in the past and relationships today have many similarities but also many differences. Over time the culture of relationships has changed from a respecting, loving and long-lasting relationship into a short-lived physical lust for one another. Family values back then were a strong foundation for a relationship and the upkeep of a household vs today’s relationships are based on a sexual lust and attraction to one another. As a result of the media up rise men and women have lost the acceptance of themselves today and feel they must be live up to society’s expectations unlike in the past when people had a monogamous relationship which gave them self-respect as well as the ability to respect each other. As a consequence of not taking relationships more seriously in our civilization we have more broken households, toxic relationships, weak self-esteem and a loss of respect towards those involved in the relationship and with that this is the result of the compliancy to divorce.

~Kristen Holmes