Here Is What To Do If Your Partner Is Always Denying You Sex

Remember that this marriage idea is a long-term commitment. You’re not the only one who took some vows. And where there’s commitment and faithfulness, there’s hope. Here are 10 things to do when you are feeling rejected by your wife.

1. Make sure you’re not rejecting her

Relationships are, by definition, interactive. Men and women often mirror each other, even if only in terms of perception. So make sure you become a model of openness and acceptance that is unconditional.

2. Avoid becoming defensive

“Hey! What do you mean by that!” Seriously, one of the least effective interventions in a relationship is defensiveness. Arms folded, foot tapping, “You’re wrong/I’m right,” “You are the problem.” It doesn’t matter what the facts are… in relationships, truth is typically reached via humility and an openness to critique.

3. Remember what it was (about you) that attracted her in the first place – then be that guy

It’s too easy for men and women both to stop trying after the first flush of excitement wears off in the marriage. Are you being the exciting person she fell in love with or are you are busy pursuing laziness and comfort? Dial it up a little bit.

4. Get back into the dating habit

Related to # 3, above. When did you last ask your wife out on a romantic date? Demonstrate how much you care, go anywhere other than a sports bar, and have some great “conversation-starters” in your back pocket ready for dinner.

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5. Make her a cup of tea

Prepare a hot drink, serve it to her, sit down and enjoy it together. It’s an act of service that says, “I want to spend some deliberate time, knee to knee, listening and connecting.” Such an act of service reaches out and invites.

6. Look for more ways to serve her

Many relationships become one-sided. Perhaps yours has as well with your wife serving you more. Try out-serving her so the balance tips the other way. There’s a good chance rejection might not be an issue so much anymore.

7. Do not give up

If you’re doing everything right and she’s still rejecting you at least you’re doing everything right. There’s no need to quit doing the right thing because things aren’t going your way. Be patient, and pray.