By Bishop Prince Jerry O
One major mistake couples make is entering marriage without understanding its true purpose. Marriage is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect being. When we expect perfection, slight flaws lead to offense, anger, and nagging.
As a marriage and relationship coach, I've seen couples who appear perfect on the surface but are actually struggling. The devil rarely destroys marriages through open warfare; he uses whispers—small, believable lies that grow like weeds until love is choked out completely.
Here's what happened to a couple who were once the envy of everyone:
- They prayed together, laughed together, and supported each other's dreams.
- But they drifted apart due to subtle lies they began to believe.
Here are 10 lies the devil uses to destroy marriages — and how to overcome them:
1. *“Don't you know, you Married the Wrong Person.”*
The devil magnifies flaws and blinds you to the good.
_Action Step:_ Stop comparing your marriage to others. Pray, forgive, and rebuild.
2. *“Look, you Deserve someone Better.”*
This lie feeds pride, making you feel superior and ungrateful.
_Action Step:_ Gratitude is the cure. Appreciate your spouse's uniqueness.
3. *“Keep Secrets.”*
Secrets destroy trust, and trust is the foundation of love.
_Action Step:_ Practice total transparency. Build trust by being open and honest.
4. *“Love Should Be Easy.”*
The enemy makes you believe love shouldn't require effort.
_Action Step:_ Work on your marriage daily. Love is a verb — not a feeling.
5. *“Flirting Isn’t Cheating.”*
Many marriages are broken by emotional unfaithfulness.
_Action Step:_ Set firm boundaries with the opposite sex.
6. *“Your Spouse isn’t Making You Happy.”*
This lie makes you idolize your spouse and resent them when they fall short.
_Action Step:_ Find your joy in God first.
7. *“Divorce Is the Only Solution.”*
The devil whispers, “Walk away” when things get tough.
_Action Step:_ Seek counseling, pray together, and fight for your marriage.
8. *“You Don’t Need God to Make Marriage Work.”*
Without God, small misunderstandings become mountains.
_Action Step:_ Make prayer your daily habit.
9. *“Everyone Else Is Doing Better.”*
Comparison kills joy.
_Action Step:_ Focus on your lane. Celebrate your progress.
10. *“You Can Change Them.”*
This lie makes you think you can fix your spouse.
_Action Step:_ Focus on changing yourself and communicating your needs.
*Final Thoughts:*
The devil targets your agreement. Choose truth over lies. Choose prayer over pride. Choose love over ego. Your marriage can still flourish.
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