For couples with a new baby, learning to parent, share their home and even their bedroom make up the bulk of their time during the first few months of parenthood. There are more books to read, laundry and chores to do, and there is much less time. Baby needs constant attention. Nights are busy with multiple feedings, and mornings start early, very early.
Below are five simple steps you and your spouse can take to keep the romance alive, after you have a child.
1. Make a date, and stick to it.
Chances are your schedules were busy before baby was born. Now you’re taking turns working, napping, cleaning, feeding and caring for your little one. This means time spent as a couple is sacrificed. By setting a date to spend some quality time with your partner, you’re instilling a habit, which will have great benefits for both you, your partner and your child. This may start as a simple coffee date down the street on Saturdays in between feedings when your babysitter or relative can stop by.
2. Take a romantic stroll during your child’s nap.
Turn your child’s nap time into a romantic walk for you and your partner. The fresh air is good for your child while he is sleeping in the stroller, and you and your partner can enjoy a scenic stroll while having an opportunity to talk. Children sleep much better outdoors, and this can buy you up to two hours with your partner. Make sure the setting is natural so your child is not disturbed by high traffic noises or the lights and sounds of a busy mall.
3. Show your affection, “just because.”
Remember when you used to call each other just to say, “hi?” That doesn’t need to stop. Nor do the love notes or text messages or showing your love, just because. These acts of loveand kindness don’t take a lot of effort or time, but they do show your partner you love him and you care.
4. Give your partner the day off.
OK, so a whole day may be out of the question, but surely you can give your partner an afternoon to spend time with his friends or even just to have a nap, while you take care of baby. If your partner is home and you can tell he’s run down, offer to run him a warm bubble bath, and surprise him with champagne and strawberries or a new book.
5. Take five minutes to connect each day.
It’s easy to lose track of what’s going on in your partner’s world outside of the home, when your child is born. Conversations and attention tend to revolve around your children and not your spouse. Take at least five minutes each day to ask your spouse about his day and have him ask about yours.
~Working mother
